In Off the Clock, Laura Vanderkam presents this idea of three selves: the anticipating self, the experiencing self, and the remembering self. I’ve loved this idea since I first heard
Most interesting in this, though, is that to have memorable weekends you need to put in the work. The anticipating self can only anticipate things that have been planned.
This weekend I was determined to take something off my 101 in 1001 list. After many busy weekends in a row, I was looking forward to a quieter weekend at home. I knew that watching the sunrise over the ocean would be the perfect complement to a quiet-ish weekend.
At 5 AM on Sunday morning, the alarm clock went off. We got up, showered, drank coffee, walked Bo, packed breakfast sandwiches, and loaded up the car. By 6 AM, we were on the road. It was about 45 minutes to Tybee Island. We found a parking spot off Center St.
We set up our beach chairs and savored our coffee while watching the sky go from dark blue to red to orange
We were there, talking and hiding from the wind under our beach towels until 8 AM or so. Then we headed to a diner for second breakfast.
The idea of putting in work to plan for weekends has always been so unappealing to me. I hate the idea that it’s not enough to just plan for all the things to happen. We must also plan for the the activities that are going to help us recover, help me recharge.
It feels like putting more on my own plate is the very last thing I want to do when I’m trying to recharge, but I realize that this work has the ultimate ROI. I do feel better when I spend some time planning things like this- like waking up at 5 AM on a Sunday.
Correction– I feel better when I do things like this, and if it takes planning to make that happen then I feel better when I plan things like this.
What I need to learn now is how to find the middle ground- How do I balance doing just enough to recharge without spending more time planning than necessary?
Here is a list of things that didn’t get done this weekend:
- getting to the post office
- making a PR to an open source project that has been rolling around in the back of my head
- writing a hard email that I’ve been putting off
- hanging up all the laundry that has been in the basket
- writing this month’s iPhone Screen update that is over a week late
- working on my goodreads extractor
List of things that did happen:
- Finished Scaled 19.5 (45# Thrusters & Jumping Pull Ups) in 17:35, finishing up my second-ever Open
- Finished Netflix series on the Disappearance of Madeline McCann
- Made 2 ingredient WW-friendly Everything Bagels
- Prepped WW-friendly Sheetpan Pancakes for the Freezer
- Had dinner a Melody’s Coastal Cafe for dinner on Saturday night celebrating a friend who got an awesome new career opportunity
- Impulsed Dairy Queen blizzards after that dinner
- Watched the
sun riseover Tybee Island on Sunday morning
Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She lives with her husband Casey and their pup Bo in Savannah, GA.