She Does Better

Emilie Burke

  • About Emilie
  • Data

This week in media consumption

// Uncategorized

Reading Time: < 1 minute

Movies:

  • Yesterday
  • A Star is Born
  • Murder to Mercy: The Cyntoia Brown Story
  • Across the Universe
  • John Tucker Must Die
  • Along Came Polly

Shows:

  • Parks and Rec Special
  • The Trial of Gabriel Fernandez
Emilie

Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She is a contributor to many open source projects including dbt, Meltano, and GitLab. She lives with her husband Casey, their son RJ, and their pup Bo in Columbus, GA.

This weekend in media consumption

// Uncategorized

Reading Time: < 1 minute

Movies:

  • Ma with Octavia Butler
  • Little with Regina Hall and Issa Rae
  • Good Boys
  • The Day After Tomorrow

Shows:

  • Flipping 101 with Tarek El Moussa
  • Lots of Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives, including the new Quarantine episode
  • the new Quarantine episode of Pioneer Woman
  • Multiple episodes of Law and Order SVU that includes Hayden Penettiere

Emilie

Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She is a contributor to many open source projects including dbt, Meltano, and GitLab. She lives with her husband Casey, their son RJ, and their pup Bo in Columbus, GA.

Give the Gift of Love of Reading, Retreat, & Self

// Uncategorized

Reading Time: 4 minutesValentine’s Day is just around the corner and you may be wondering what to give someone you care about. Flowers, chocolates, and dinner are always nice, but what about something a little more special this year?

The gift of love is a gift that keeps on giving all year long. What do I mean by “the gift of love?” I mean giving a gift of a more balanced life. Giving a gift that encourages you to grow. Giving a gift that allows you to expand your heart and your mind. Doesn’t that sound wonderful?

Giving the gift of love is also a gift for you. Giving to someone else releases feel-good emotions in yourself and allow you to feel as good as the person you’re giving the gift to. Giving to someone else is a great way to practice self-care.

If you’re looking for a great gift of love, look no further than these ideas.

The Gift of Reading

If your sweetie loves to read, this is a great way to allow more time for that. And if they don’t read much, the gift a reading a great way to introduce them to a new passion. Reading expands your mind, opens your thoughts up to new ideas, and allows you to learn a little more about yourself. It doesn’t really matter if you give fiction or non-fiction books. Sharing your favorite mystery author or sharing a good book on budget will have the same effect, giving your sweetie a chance to enjoy some down time while expanding their mind.

There are no rules about only giving a Valentine’s gift to your sweetie either. Share your favorite book with a friend, or ask them to join (or start) a book club with you. Connecting over a good book bonds your friendship.

The Gift of Retreat

Sometimes, the best way to recharge is to completely step away from your day-to-day routine. Take some time away from your daily and get away. Even just a night out or an overnight can help you unwind and find your way back to feeling more balanced.

If you know someone who could really use some time for themselves, the gift of retreat is perfect. Just breaking the routine of day-to-day life can help you recharge. Enjoy a girl’s night out full of fun and laughter. It’s Valentine’s Day, take your besties to a great dessert place and enjoy dessert before dinner (or skip dinner altogether). Take a friend to your favorite yoga class with you. Plan an overnight trip to the beach. Or make a point to make new friends together by joining a wine or dinner club.

The Gift of Self

Giving the gift of self-love is probably the best gift you could ever give someone. But how to you gift self-love. It starts by being a good example. Be someone who loves herself and you’ll encourage other women to do the same.

Loving yourself doesn’t have to mean indulging, but it does mean making yourself a priority and knowing that you are worth a little effort. Clean your closet out of everything that doesn’t fit comfortably and vow to buy only clothes that feel good in the future. Get a good night’s sleep by getting to bed at a regular time. Hydrate, eat well, and exercise to show love for your body no matter what size and shape it happens to be. Take a hot shower at the end of a long day and settle in with a good book before bed. And most importantly, stop taking on the world and seek help when you need it. Whether you need help around the house, help with your spirituality, help with your health, it doesn’t matter. Read books, talk to experts, invest in yourself and your wellbeing. This gift of self will encourage and inspire those around you to do the same.

This Valentine’s Day, make the gift of love the best you’ll ever give.

If you’re a military spouse, a first responder spouse, or a retired military spouse, the Military Spouse Wellness Summit: Renew You is a great place to start. Dedicate the first week of March (March 5-11) to spending some time online getting recharged and finding balance.

This conference is going to bring you ten experts throughout the six days to reveal their secrets to a balanced mind and body. Each of the presentations will arrive right to your email inbox so you can listen on your schedule. The Renew You Summit will help you overcome burnout and learn how to avoid it in the future with the tips and tricks from their wellness experts.

There are two registration categories, General Admission and VIP. General Admission gives you access to the wellness talks during the week of the event only. You can listen during down time in the evening, or listen on the go, at the gym or in the car. VIP registration has a few added perks. First, and most importantly, you’ll be able to download all of the recordings so that you can listen as often as you’d like and whenever it’s convenient. You’ll also receive links to purchase exclusive summit apparel by Charliemadison Originals and Grins & Grace. You’ll receive a virtual swag bag full of health and wellness discounts.

👉 👉SIGN UP NOW

Remember, the point is to give the gift of love and that all starts with loving yourself. You don’t need to spend money to do that.

Emilie

Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She is a contributor to many open source projects including dbt, Meltano, and GitLab. She lives with her husband Casey, their son RJ, and their pup Bo in Columbus, GA.

What I did about the Equifax Data Breach

// Uncategorized

Reading Time: 4 minutes

There is not a single affiliate link anywhere in this post. These things are not money-making opportunities. They’re real.

On September 7, 2017, Equifax, one of the top three credit reporting agencies, announced a cybersecurity incident that could have impacted nearly 150 million Americans. If you haven’t already heard about this, you can read more from the FTC.

On September 7, 2017, I was sitting on the beach in Brasil eating queijo coalho on a stick. I added “Equifax Data Breach Things” to my to-do list in Todoist and focused on vacation.

Now, I’m home, settled, and I’ve handled my things. If you haven’t already, you should too.

Proactive v Reactive

When it comes to data breaches, you can do something or you can do nothing. In fact, according the Bureau of Justice Statistics (source), the majority of Americans will never experience identity theft either. In 2014, about 7% of Americans had their personal information stolen and used maliciously. While low, that number continues to climb and the more these data breaches happen, the more people are going to continue to be affected by it.

There are services out there that can help you monitor your credit for identity theft. Usually, you pay for these services and, if anything ever happens, they will help you address the situation. The top two services in this space that I know of are Lifelock and Zander Insurance’s Identity Theft Protection. I have never used any of these companies, have no experience with them at all, and do not endorse them.

In fact, I don’t think you should get identity theft insurance/monitoring at all. You see, these services are reactive. While, yes, they monitor your credit (something you can do for free), they don’t do anything until after your credit has been stolen. What if I told you that you could protect your identity from being stolen in the first place?

Well, you can.

 

NeONBRAND

Credit Freezes

A credit freeze “essentially blocks any potential creditors from being able to view or “pull” your credit file, unless you affirmatively unfreeze or thaw your file beforehand” (source). In other words, with a credit freeze in place, you cannot be approved for new credit. No new credit card lines. No cars bought in your name. No. New. Credit.

Not just for the bad guys trying to steal your credit either. For you too. That means what Victoria Secret offers you 99% off if you sign up for their credit card, you will get rejected, even with a 750 credit score. Credit freezes can be temporarily thawed or permanently taken off at any point, though. (Some states actually require credit agencies to remove a credit freeze after a certain number of years, so please look up the policies for your state.) You’re not shutting down your credit for life.

Credit Monitoring

So… what is credit monitoring?

It’s watching your credit.

You know what you can use to watch your credit?

A free app like Credit Karma or Credit Sesame (which both are free to you because they make a commission if you sign up for any of the products they reccommend).

Don’t pay someone to do something you can do for free. Personally, I use Credit Karma. I have notifications turned on. Every month when they update my credit score, I get a ping. I check it out. It all looks good. Done in less than five minutes. I’ll keep my $9.99/month, thank you very much.

Snarkiness aside, with a credit freeze in place, you can’t be approved for new lines of credit and, with an app like Credit Karma checking in on your every month, you’ll keep a pulse on already open lines of credit, like your credit cards which you’re not response for identity theft on.

My suggestion

  1. Download Credit Karma or Credit Sesame. I don’t care which you use, just download it and get set up ASAP.
  2. Contact each of the three credit bureaus and set up a credit freeze. I’ve made it super easy for you by including each of the three links below. It took me a total of 10 minutes to get them all done.

Equifax: https://www.freeze.equifax.com/Freeze/jsp/SFF_PersonalIDInfo.jsp

Experian: https://www.experian.com/ncaconline/freeze

Transunion: https://freeze.transunion.com/sf/securityFreeze/landingPage.jsp

Saving Your Pin

When you set up a credit freeze, you will have to set up a Pin. This Pin is important should you choose to thaw your credit or remove your freeze at some point in the future. Store it in a safe place! I keep my Pin and all my passwords in the password manager that I personally use 1Password.

The Problem With The Promised Time-Bound Credit Monitoring

Oh Emilie, but I signed up for the 1 year of free credit monitoring from Equifax.

Oh yea?

You know who else knows you’ve got one year of credit monitoring going on? THE IDENTITY THIEVES!

They will- sorry, let me say that again- THEY WILL JUST SIT ON YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION FOR A YEAR. You will have a year of credit monitoring and then say “nah, I’m not gonna pay for this” and then KAH-BOOM. You didn’t have a credit freeze in place, so little Johnny got a new credit card in your name and ran up $60,000 in expenses before running off to a wonderful beach island never to be seen again. Because you didn’t monitor your credit, you didn’t even notice the new credit cards and the missed payments in your name. You only found out from the collection calls and subsequent headache that you were left behind with. Johnny is on a beach, and you’re on the phone.

Okay, that’s a bit of a hyperbole but it really does happen to very real people. It’s hard and frustrating and, frankly, a pain in the ass to deal with. With thirty minute of work today, literally right now(!!), you can nip this in the bud.

Have you already set your credit freeze yet? Have I convinced you to do it?

Photo by NeONBRAND on Unsplash

Emilie

Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She is a contributor to many open source projects including dbt, Meltano, and GitLab. She lives with her husband Casey, their son RJ, and their pup Bo in Columbus, GA.

Broke Millennial by Erin Lowry

// Uncategorized

Reading Time: 7 minutes

I received Broke Millennial for free for review. I was not otherwise compensated for this post. Thanks for supporting the brands that support Burke Does!

“I can’t.” I catch myself saying these words a lot lately.

“I’m sorry. I can’t go out with you all to dinner because I’m working to pay down my debt.” I say this to the women in one of my social circles at least once per month and they are always incredibly supportive and understanding. One of the women of the group, the owner of a thriving business that I really admire, always reaffirms to me that I’m doing the right thing. I know that it’s the right thing. That doesn’t make it the easy thing to do.

“I’m sorry. I can’t do that Crossfit competition because it’s outside of my budget this month.”

“I’m sorry. I can’t come hang out tonight; I have a babysitting gig.”

All. the. time.

Turning things down isn’t easy. Saying no is much harder, and at times embarrassing, in a way that saying yes wouldn’t be.

I was only in the first chapter of my most recent read when I figured it all out. In fact, less than 10 pages into Erin Lowry’s [easyazon_link identifier=”0143130404″ locale=”US” tag=”burkedoes-20″]Broke Millennial[/easyazon_link], I found myself up and scrambling for a pen to underline a powerful line:

“Money gives you choices” (8)

Yes, yes, it does. Now, while I feel like I’m sometimes winning with money and other times suffocating under it, I’ve come to realize that money gives you choices. If I didn’t have debt, I would have my income freed up to do whatever I want (within reason) or buy whatever I want (within reason) or turn down whatever extra money I want.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love babysitting. I enjoy tutoring. I get a sense of pleasure from earning a couple of extra bucks. Almost all of the gas in my car gets paid from my “cash budget” earned from these side gigs.

Part of the reason I’m in this situation, though, is because I have debt. There are lots of things I wish I had known about money two years ago. Whether you’re confused about money for yourself (admitting it is the necessary precursor to addressing it), are doing just fine and want to know if there’s anything left for you to learn (hint: the answer is yes), or are somewhere in between [easyazon_link identifier=”0143130404″ locale=”US” tag=”burkedoes-20″]Erin Lowry’s Broke Millennial[/easyazon_link] is a must read.

Money Mindset

Your relationship with money is not just about the money you have in your bank account right now. It is the culmination of all your experiences with money throughout your life to this point. Lowry repeated references how her interactions with her parents affected her understanding with money. Through one particularly traumatic (life-changing) experience with a couple dozen Krispy Kreme donuts, Lowry learns from her dad the difference between gross and net profit, laying the groundwork for the financial knowledge she would accumulate over the rest of her life. By the way, Lowry talks about those Krispy Kreme donuts on The Financial Ginger with Jacob Johnson, Her Money with Jean Chatsky, and Afford Anything with Paula Pant– all podcasts I strongly recommend!

Lowry highlights that your actions with money are mostly the results of your money mindset “which is shaped by a number of things, such as your relationship to future thinking, how your parents related to money, and your financial fears” (9). Through the questions in the book (there are spaces to actually fill out the answers right in the book! this is not a theoretical exercise, folks), you can start to understand your own money mindset and what hurdles might be in your way to getting your financial life together- also known as #GYFLT.

Common Mistakes

Being not-that-far-out-of-college, I’ve seen tons of people screw up with money. Lucky for them, we’re still young enough that a money screw up now does not translate into ruining-your-life. There are, for the most part, no kids in the picture and few-if-any mortgages at play. If there’s a time to screw up, well, this is it.

The most common issue I see: No Budget. Lowry writes:

[N0] matter how you feel about the B-word, having a budget puts you in control of your money. At the very least, you need to understand how much you have coming in and how much is going out each month. (30)

The best way to know where your money is going is to tell it where to go. It’s that simple.

Have a budget.

While there are lots of other common money mistakes out there, so many of them are rooted in a lack of a budget. For example, accumulating overdraft fees is almost always a result of not knowing how much money you should have.

According to the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, in December 2015, banks earned 11.6 billion… dollars in revenue from overdraft and NSF fees (51)

When I read this my jaw dropped. That just seems like SO much money to me. That $30 NSF fee is a date night out! It’s a Lyft to and from the bar. It can buy you so much that you should really not ever in the entirety of your life pay an NSF fee. Despite all of that, it happens all the time.

In high school, I used to work at Dunkin Donuts, the delicious breakfast chain for those of you unfamiliar with it. We had a customer who used to come in and order $6 worth of breakfast every day. He would wake up in the morning, open the bank app on his phone, and check his balance. When he saw that he had more than $6 in his bank account, he would order his breakfast. He would do the same thing before he spent any money throughout the day- check that he had that amount before swiping. For about a week, though, apparently our registers were in a semi-state of processing where the credit card was swiping and showing as “approved” but not immediately sending it to the processing companies. Well, when he had a week’s worth of transactions, clocking in at roughly $50, hit his account at the same time, he got stuck with not just one NSF fee, but one for every transaction that he couldn’t afford. That $50 of Dunkin Donuts turned into $115 of expenses because he had no sense of how much money he had in the bank. Don’t be that guy.

Have a budget. Avoid bank fees.

Don’t be that friend who takes out a credit card to “build credit” and then finds yourself maxed out on the card. If you’re looking to actually build credit, Lowry lays out everything you need to know about Credit Reports in an easy-to-follow and even easier-to-understand guide.

Have a budget. Avoid bank fees. Build a strong credit score.

If you are that friend who has maxed out some credit cards or maybe just spent more than you should have,

Stop feeling shame, because you’re not the only one. (98)

Money shame is real. It’s something I struggle with often. I’ve now paid off all my credit cards but I still have 26K of other debt, most of which is my car. Sometimes being in debt can make you feel like you did something wrong, especially when you’re surrounded by people yelling at you GET OUT OF DEBT. I promise that even if you’re surrounding yourself with those voices- through podcasts, TV, books, or blogs- it can be hard to not let that turn into shame. The best way to do that? Well, I’m glad you asked: address the source and get rid of the debt.

Have a budget. Avoid bank fees. Build a strong credit score. Get rid of all that debt, especially if it’s credit card debt.

Taboo Money Topics

Somewhere along the development of society, we decided it was more socially acceptable to talk about sex that it was to talk about money. It doesn’t take that long to flip through channels on the television (which I no longer can do because we cut cable) for you to see a channel rated “MA”- for mature audiences only. It will take you much longer to find a social group that you’re pretty down to talk money with.

This is an area where I consider myself actually pretty lucky, as I do feel comfortable talking money with my friends. In fact, because people know I’m really into talking about money (duh), they just have accepted it as something we’re going to have to talk about at some point. I want to talk about the newest coolest app that I’ve found to do this or that with your money or a new budgeting tool that I’m testing out. And I probably want you- my less-into-money-than-me friend- because I want your perspective on it, as someone who isn’t super into money.

I promise that if we’re friends, we’re probably going to talk about money at some point.

Not everyone is down with this. Yet there are a lot of social situations that would be made a lot less awkward by just talking about it before putting yourself in those situations. Going out to dinner or drinks, a potluck at a friend’s, ordering grubhub, and dealing with venmo bills are just some of the socially awkward situations where we need to cross social settings and money. Lowry lays out step-by-step the taboo money topics you need to address and exactly how to address them- yes, even the money conversation you need to have with your significant other.

Investing and Retirement

These are two different things. At this age, I think a lot people forget that investing and retirement are different things. Yes, you should be investing, in addition to investing for retirement. If you’re not there yet in your financial journey (I’m not), that’s okay. If you’re just piddling around though and always wearing the newest designer fashions, out of debt, and not investing, though, I want to let you know that you’re doing it wrong. Just look at this example:

At age 25, I put $3,000 into an S&P 500 index fund. Using a conservative estimate that I’ll receive an average 8 percent interest rate each year (some years will be higher and some lower), I can expect the investment to have grown to around $6,476.77 by the time I’m 30. Let’s say I leave it alone until I’m 60. That initial $3,000 investment would be worth $44,356.03 without me continuing to contribute a single penny. If I waited until I was 35 to invest $3,000 and received the same 8 percent return, I’d have $20,543.43 by age 60. Ten years of waiting to invest $3,000 would cost me nearly $24,000. (197)

Investing can be intimidating. It’s okay to ask for help here. Maybe even read a book, like [easyazon_link identifier=”0143130404″ locale=”US” tag=”burkedoes-20″]Broke Millennial[/easyazon_link], or two to get your feet wet. Get a financial advisor if you think it’s best. Before you do that, make sure you understand how that advisor is getting paid. No fretting though! Lowry walks you through everything you need to keep in mind.

Where to Go From Here

Now you’ve got the knowledge. You’ve been following Burke Does for a while. You’re on the super special email list that fills your inboxes with all the information you need to know only a couple of times per month. You’ve already ordered [easyazon_link identifier=”0143130404″ locale=”US” tag=”burkedoes-20″]Broke Millennial[/easyazon_link] on Amazon Prime or Prime Now and it is on its way to your home already.

There is always more to learn about your money and how to manage your personal finances. Don’t forget, most importantly, that personal finance is personal! There is no right or wrong answer- there is just the answer that is right for you. As Lowry writes,

[The] variety of voices and techniques should help you find the options for budgeting, paying down debt, building and maintaining a strong credit score, investing, negotiating, and saving for retirement that are ideal for you. (248)

I couldn’t have put it better myself.

Emilie

Emilie is an Army Wife, Data Engineer, and CrossFitter with a love for working through her thoughts in this space on the internet. She is a contributor to many open source projects including dbt, Meltano, and GitLab. She lives with her husband Casey, their son RJ, and their pup Bo in Columbus, GA.

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • Next Page »

Copyright © 2021 · Fresh theme by Restored 316

Copyright © 2021 · Fresh Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in